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Friday, November 06, 2009

NaNoWriMo Day 6 and other things

 
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Messengers
By August Burns Red
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Words written: 2693
Total word count: 11,049/50,000

Well I passed 1/5th of the goal word count! I am just as surprised as anyone. It's coming along nicely, I must say. One of my characters is taking a while to develop, but it will all get ironed out soon enough. I'm surprised at the story progression that I'm making, that's for sure. It's a great feeling to have made it this far at least.


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I talked to my friend Neil for the first time in 4 months today. He's with the Marines, and has been deployed to Afghanistan, and is back here on leave until after Christmas (I think). It was good to hear his voice over the phone, and I'm glad that the prayers have been answered. I'll get to hang out with him sometime this week hopefully. Please keep praying for him, however. Being a Marine has changed him somewhat. He isn't psycho or anything like that, but his attitude has changed from being that of a Christian, to that of an alcoholic (See edit below). He said the only things he's done since he got back were sleep, eat, and drink. He used to not be like this, I remember when he balked at even the hint of drinking or smoking a cigarette. Since he joined the Marines he hasn't had many positive influences, so I'm pretty sure it has only made things worse for him. I'm hoping to make a good impression on him while he's back, so that he can see the changes I've made in my life in the past couple of years.

EDIT:

I want to say, for the sake of his reputation and all that (even though you may not know him), Neil is not an alcoholic, his mindset has just seemed to have changed to include a lot more drinking than he used to. Even though most of you probably don't know him, I don't think it's right to say something that could cause someone to think of him in an untrue way. I just couldn't find any better way to put how he sounded to me over the phone, so I said that it sounded more like an alcoholic than a Christian. Anyway, just thought I'd clear that up.

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I guess the goal for reducing alcoholism around people you know is making alcohol less accessible when your friends and love ones are around. This does not cause them to crave alcohol, but in some cases, it ties family and togetherness with sobriety.

However, it has to be a two-pronged attack: you have to reduce the amount of alone time your friend is spending by himself. If there are weekends or evenings when there is nothing going on in your friends life while he is at home, you visit him or call him. It's kind of tough at first, but usually people give warning signs as to whether or not they feel lonely. Try and be receptive as to when they want to hang out, and though it is difficult, try and make it possible to change your plans to include your friend. Even if it is just a trip to the store.

I think what gets to most people in the military is the isolation from friends and family. You have to make an effort to reduce the feeling of aloneness at home, and that may curb your friend's habits from duty.

That's all I can think of, anyway. Works for college students, too.
Posted 11/7/2009 1:15 PM by jhim43 - reply

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@jhim43 - 

Thanks for the advice. I guess I probably should have mentioned that he's not a confirmed alcoholic or anything like that, but he talks a lot about drinking, and does a lot of drinking, most of it so far seems to be socially though. My biggest thing would probably be to get him away from places where alcohol are though. He's still technically underage, so it's hard for him to have access to it, unless he's at a place where someone else has bought it for him. (I've been the person they've attempted to persuade into buying alcohol for several times.) I hate it when people are interacting with me under the influence of anything (weed, alcohol, etc.), so when we do hang out, I'll make sure there's nothing around for him to drink, so that maybe I can start telling him that he needs to hold off on so much drinking, because it could totally ruin him if he did actually become an alcoholic.
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